Today i'm gonna share with you my 15 best first date tips for guys.
First date can be an exciting, anxious, exhilarating and nerve-wracking experience for you and you definitely want to make a great first impression with proper planning.
I'm gonna give you 15 of my best first date tips for guys, that if you check off most of them on a list, you're probably gonna have a great experience with your young lady.
so let's get into this.
list of my best 15 first date tips for guys.
First date tips for guys : Number 1
make sure you take control of planning the date. here's the thing when you're first getting to know each other, you might not know what you want to do, asking her what she wants to do and her asking you what you want to do that is the worst thing that can happen.
it will make you appear indecisive which is a big turn-off for girls. so grab the bull by the horns and you plan the day after you've done a little recognizance through a couple of conversations. whether settled on an activity that you both will enjoy and it will make for easier conversation and with that in mind two things i don't suggest a movie or loud concert.
this is the first time spending time with the young lady. you want it to be quiet enough that you can hear each other talking. so pick a place and environment or an activity that will give you enough distraction that you have something to talk about.
First date tips for guys : Number 2
is along those same lines when planning the date, don't be cheap if you can't afford to go somewhere reasonably nice wait to the next paycheck and save up a little bit. i'm not telling you need to go all out on some fancy extravagant dinner but please no penny-pinching and coupons on the first date.
First date tips for guys : Number 3
is to make an effort on that first date to be stylish. now here's the thing i'm not telling you to overdo it or get overdressed. you want to wear something that's a good representation of your style. so if you're not a suit-and-tie guy don't wear a suit and tie and if you're not the street wear guy don't try to be too hip either.
In easy way i like you to think about, if you're going for a night out on the town with your buddies, wear the best version of that outfit. the key is make some effort. she's gonna make some effort to look good for you. i suggest you do the same.
First date tips for guys : Number 4
let's talk about that cologne. if you wear any at all, the problem with cologne on the first date you don't know is she's allergic to it or not or if she likes it or not. if your signature scent is too overpowering, i suggest you wear a subtle scent. if you're gonna wear a fragrance one that's not projecting too much or one that enters the room before you do.
First date tips for guys : Number 5
i would hope i wouldn't have to tell you but i'm gonna say it anyway. just like with anything that you're doing that's important, please be on time and to me being on time means being five minutes early. it's okay if she's fascinating late you're the gentleman. make sure you're there being on time shows that you're a man that values time and more importantly the time of others including your first date.
First date tips for guys : Number 6
now one of the things most of us guys fear on that first date is dead spaces or big lulls in the conversation. A great way to avoid this is to pre-plan some first date questions or topics of conversation. what i suggest you do write down some questions you'd like to ask write down some great topics of conversation this way if you're stuck with something to say you can fall back on that list.
First date tips for guys : Number 7
next tip is a bit of a piggyback on previous tip. you want to have some conversation topics but please whatever you do, don't just talk about yourself. yes you're gonna have to share some things about you but make sure you're asking her questions, getting to know her, letting you know you're interested in what's going on and what's important in her life. And trust me if she's interested in getting to know you, she'll ask questions about you. you won't have to focus on you, she will. A good rule of thumb for everything you say about yourself ask her two things about her.
First date tips for guys : Number 8
now because the conversation are getting to know each other, it is so important in the first date i've got a couple of more conversation tips the first being ease up on the serious talk what things on the first date to be light fun and easygoing. please don't talk about your childhood trauma this is not the time to talk about how much you want to get married and how many kids you can see each other happy being too serious and too heavy is a big turn-off ease into a big fella keep the conversation light and fun which brings me to our
First date tips for guys : Number 9
please do not talk about money. how much you make, asking her how much she makes. those are conversations for later when you're trying to get serious with one another. nobody cares about just six-figure salary if you're a man of means it will be a parent you don't have to put it on front street and once you guys get engaged in talking about getting married then so are your 401k statement and your bank statement.
First date tips for guys : Number 10
please go easy on the bragging. you don't want to be talk about how successful you are, your fancy car, how you're just a man in these streets. Nothing turns a lady more off than arrogance. if you're that dude it will be apparent as she gets to know you. she'll be able to pick up on the sides on just how dope you are. let her find out for herself don't brag about it
First date tips for guys : Number 11
do's and don't... Be a gentleman. now i don't care how much society has changed, how much we're supposed to be on equal footing that's cool but trust me a lady still likes to be treated like someone special and it's a simple thing - open the door for pick up,pay the bill ,on the first date offer her your jacket if it gets cold. these little things she definitely will notice and here's a bonus tip a lot of guys aren't gentlemen if you are you'll stand out from the bunch.
First date tips for guys : Number 12
next to being a gentleman includes giving her a few gentlemanly compliments, heavy emphasis on gentlemanly. compliments you don't need to tell her how nice her rack is, how good her rear end looks in her jeans. just be a little more subtle be cool. it's that compliment on something she has on nose an accessory or maybe her shoes or even better yet compliment her smile. everyone whether man or woman loves to be complimented including your first date but don't be overly aggressive with the compliments.
First date tips for guys : Number 13
speaking of being subtle and not focusing on her body parts. please don't be ultra aggressive or too handy on the first date. get it. you wanted to go out with her because you're very attracted to her. let the chemistry develop naturally. however hopefully you chose someone that you want to get to know if the physical is gonna occur. it'll happen when it's supposed to happen just like you she may be nervous, she may be anxious putting her and what might feel like a compromising position on the first date is a definite no-no.
First date tips for guys : Number 14
subtle gestures such as holding her hand or giving her a kiss on the cheek at the end of the day unless the chemistry is hot and super on fire, take it easy on the aggressiveness on that first date and one of the ways to make sure you're making the right moves on the first date is maybe not let the inhibition down too much in over drinking the alcohol. Drinking too much on the first date is the easy way for you to make a mistake whether consciously or unconsciously. it's much better to be in a control of yourself as much as possible by just one or two drinks on the first date.
First date tips for guys : Number 15
whatever you do do not spend time bashing girlfriend. as a matter of fact avoid the topic at all if you can. No matter how bad your last relationship went and if it was all her fault, you're talking about the bad qualities of another woman is a bad sign. it's gonna be a red flag to your first date. she's gonna be thinking if things don't work out between us is he gonna talk down on me like this? there's no upside and bashing your ex. trust me no matter how much you feel like you want to get it off your chest it doesn't help you on the first date like our mom's used to always tell us you don't have anything good to say don't say anything.
okay so there you have it, my 15 best first date tips for guys. if you have any first date tips you want to share with us, please leave them in the comment section as always.
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