Today we're going to be talking about a stat that i saw on the web. This has kind of been circulating for a while. I've seen this before and that's most women think that 80% of men or more than 80% of men are unattractive.
Okcupid study 80/20
In fact, i'm gonna go into the study right now. so it's actually gets even worse if you look at the data it says some women may be operating on a very different scale. some pictures of men who are fine looking, some might even say cute but the women have rated them as significantly less attractive than the so-called average.
So they're actually saying that 80% of men are unattractive. they're below whatever like medium attractiveness is. Most women are saying this and data taken from okcupid by the way. Right so a lot of men and a lot of people will look at this and say - no wonder all single women are single because you know their expectations are too high.
Why Women find 80% of men unattractive?
I am going to tell you in this blog. You're going to understand why this is happening and my goal for you is to not be like oh.. women suck, they're too picky or whatever.
you're gonna understand why they're making this and why it's not that big of a deal all right As long as you understand what's going on.
Okay so i first discovered this when i was younger when i was like uh you know my early 20s or whatever. i would talk to women about this and that we would play that whole celebrity game where like you pick which celebrities you you'd be down to have sex with or whatever.
So we're doing this game and i would bring up a celebrity like brad pitt or hugh jackman or just someone that's like i know is a really good looking guy and a lot of times like more than half of the female friends that i had that were i was doing this with they would say they wouldn't do it with like a brad pitt or a hugh jackman or something like that.
A lot of them wouldn't and i'd be like are you crazy like these guys like obviously they're an incredibly good looking man why is it you wouldn't be down for that kind of thing and most of the time they would give all these different answers.
Differences between men and women
The reason why a lot of guys get you know angry when they hear certain things like this is because they're not understanding it from a woman's perspective. so i'm gonna kind of talk about the differences between men and women a little bit here okay.
So let's look let's take two environments,
Let's take like you can see this at a female strip club where women are stripping okay this is where guys go. so this is supposed to be appealing to men what are they wearing there, almost nothing lingerie you know bikini whatever the thong they're wearing almost nothing.
Now go to a male strip club where the guys are stripping and if you notice what are they wearing there sometimes you'll see them in like a firefighter's outfit maybe a military outfit, police uniform. they're wearing something to indicate that they have a job a career or something.
They are just some guys who are wearing something to show that they have a job or a career. They're showing something else besides their looks even in those environments women need to know that the man that they're with is doing something.
What Women want?
Women need to know what kind of guy he is and that's a big difference between men and women because when a woman sees a photo online on a dating app like okay cupid, she needs to know what kind of guy he is almost always.
She's going to read his profile almost always. she's going to try and figure it out and sometimes he'll like kind of look like her ex or someone that they've dated in the past that they're attracted to and so they'll kind of fill in the gaps with whatever's in their head which you know isn't very healthy but it happens a lot and so that is called their type.
Their type is this person that they've kind of imbued these characteristics. it could have even been that they they saw this kind of person in a movie and you know now they think they have those characteristics and that's appealing to them. so you know this is this is what's happening when you're their type it works but when you're not they a lot of times women will think that you're unattractive.
Okay and by the way this is not all, even the study says this is most women. so i'm not talking about all of them but i'm saying that this is in the majority of what's happening. you'll see this on dating apps women won't swipe right on many guys but guys will swipe right on a lot more women.
You know even if you're i guess the medium looking woman you're going to get a ton more matches than a guy in the same place. Like several times more more match and the reason why is because sex is not a scarce resource for women. A lot of women when you ask them how many sexual partners would you like to have this next year a lot of them will say one. now not all of them will only have one but that's kind of their preference for men.
for women it's not like that now if you were only gonna have one sexual partner in the year you know you'd be a little bit more careful about who you pick, she start to think if they get into long-term.
They want to know what kind of guy he is. what he does. what it's going to be like to spend time with him and so for that reason if you just show a picture and just bring up somebody that they've only seen in a magazine or something like that, that's why they're going to have those judgments.
20% of men get 80% of women
so what does this tell you why is this important? why am i breaking this down?
I'm doing this so you can understand number one female nature and number two you can understand that when you first walk up to somebody and start talking to them. it's okay if they're not attracted to you right then and there but if you're patient and she sees you again and again sees what kind of guy you are, your chances will go up.
The more she learns about you, the more familiar she gets with you the more time she spends with you, your chances will go up. so a lot of times guys are too tempted oh she's not texting me, and then men quickly give it up.
Okay and it's good to give things up when you're not getting the respect that you deserve but i find that the guys who aren't judging themselves too harshly about initial interactions or initial impressions that are more patient that look at the long game in general, they tend to do a lot better because more women will see what kind of guy they are and if you're that guy you're going to be a lot more successful with women and these studies and these things that you hear online are not going to bother you as much.
How to be attractive
So anyway that's what i was going to say about this i mean like 80%, it sounds really harsh but what they're not looking at is they're not looking at why this is happening or maybe the people are there they're just data nerds and they're not really attempting to break it down but this is my job, this is what i do and you know over time i've learned exactly why this is happening and i think that number's even higher.
It's probably going to be most women think maybe like higher than 80% are unattractive. but if you've ever been around women long enough or you've had enough female friends, you know that even if they say they don't like a guy at first a lot of times they'll end up dating that exact same guy that they said they would never date and it's because they spent time with them, they know what kind of guy he is.
You know it like, you shouldn't just dismiss things right off of first impressions and if people get enough chance your chances will go up.
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